Family Life Ministry

Family Life Ministry

Family Life Ministry Teaching Series Effective Parenting Foundational Principles of Family Leadership (Part 2) The Foundational Principles of Family Leadership Brief Recap of Part 1 Parenting & Leadership Skills Parenting is an assignment with high expectation and of great consequence

Poor outcome in children can be easily traced to failed parenting Lesson from Elis Parenting Failure Summary of Part 1 A key factor to failed parenting is poor leadership skills in a family Therefore,

leadership skills must be considered a foundational element of success in parenting Psalm 11:3 [KJV] - If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? Questions considered last teaching 1. Why leadership? - Poor leadership = poor outcome in any organization (family)

2. What is leadership? Leadership is not about your title, its about your degree of influence with your followers! 3. Who is a leader? - Being in power is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you arent.-Margaret Thatcher Questions considered last teaching 4. Why is it necessary to understand leadership

principles in the family context? - Parents (like Eli) will be held responsible for their childrens outcome! 5. Are leaders born or made? - Principles of effective leadership can be learned; a gifted leader must understand the principles & continually improve on his/her skills to make the most of his/her natural gifting 6. How can I be an effective leader in my home? We looked at 5 principles last teaching

Discussed 5 Principles of Family Leadership 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Build an Altar, Be The Priest! Focus on Character Development not Image Building! Institute a Culture of Discipline Create an Environment that Fosters Open Communication Learn to CONNECT with every

member of your family individually The Foundational Principles of Family Leadership Part 2 Principle #6: Accept Responsibility Like Eli parents are accountable for childrens outcome, not the church or society! Successful leaders never blame others,

external factors, or bad luck for poor result On the other hand, they apportion credit to others and external factors not self Principle #7: Be Open to Change & Encourage Creativity The Nine Dot Exercise! Connect the 9 dots with 4 straight lines without lifting your pen/pencil from the paper when you start. Principle #7: Be Open to Change & Encourage Creativity

The Nine Dot Exercise Solution (1) 2 1 3 4 This creative solution is fairly known Principle #7: Be Open to Change & Encourage Creativity

The Nine Dot Exercise Solution (2) 1 2 3 Less known are alternative solutions, which stems from breaking assumptions! Such as line must pass through the center of the dot! (if you draw lines that Just touch the dots,

you can solve the Principle #7: Be Open to Change & Encourage Creativity Dont assume there is only one way to arrive at desired ends We cannot become who we need to be by remaining who we are! When

you are through changing, you are through growing! When change matures, it is called growth! Principle #8: Recognize Problems Before They Become Emergencies

Under excellent leadership, problem seldom reach gigantic proportions Because it is identified and dealt with it in its early stages The punch that knocks you out is hardly the hard one you anticipate, its the one you fail to see coming Be on the lookout for conditions and situations indicative that a problem could lie ahead Manage potentially problematic situation using 7 steps Principle #8: Recognize Problems Before They Become Emergencies

7 steps to early problem recognition and resolution: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. Intuition - sense it Curiosity - ask questions Processing - gather data Communication - discuss with trusted allies Definition - clearly write down the details & data

Evaluation - check your resources Action - make a decision and commit to action Principle #9: Be A Coach Not A King! Coaches help the team (family) to dig deep and bring out the best in them, while a king orders Involve your family member(s) impacted by a

problem in the developing and implementing the solution Give your team (family) the ownership of problem solving & improvement Without ownership solutions will be short term Ask questions; don't allow your followers/family to think you have all the answers Principle #9: Be A Coach Not A King!

List your solution ideas and theirs on a paper Integrate ideas from both sides Ask the individual(s) impacted to evaluate and select the best solution option Develop an action plan together Ask them to set up a delivery/completion timeframe and accountability process Ensure that he/she gains ownership and responsibility for implementation of the solution Principle #10: Watch Your Attitude

Your attitude as the leader will be transparent & infectious to your team/family We have to continually work on improving our attitude, it does not run on automatic Your attitude will make or break you when it comes to leadership...it forms 80% of your success factor The pessimist complain about the wind, the optimist expects it to change, the leader

adjust the sails! Principle #11: Provide Positive Reinforcement Everyone needs encouragement! People do better under the spirit of approval than criticism one of the greatest influence you can have on others is to believe and see the best in them, even if their current performance fall short of your expectation... Call out the best in people, and they will live up to the high expectation Tell your spouse & children people that you believe in

them "Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it's amazing what they can accomplish." -Sam Walton Principle #11: Provide Positive Reinforcement People want to feel worthwhile... Help people develop their self esteem help people feel important one of the greatest complement you can pay someone is to help him/her be useful, find satisfaction and significance

People tend to become what the most important people in their lives think they will become" - John Maxwell Principle #12: Dedicate Yourself to Servant Leadership Luke 22:24-27 Now an eager contention arose among them as to which of them was considered and reputed to be the greatest. But Jesus said to them, The kings of the Gentiles are deified by them and exercise lordship ruling as emperor-gods over them; and those in authority over them are called benefactors and well-doers. But this is not to be so with you; on the contrary, let him who is the greatest among you become like the youngest, and him

who is the chief and leader like one who serves. For who is the greater, the one who reclines at table the master, or the one who serves? Is it not the one who reclines at table? But I am in your midst as One Who serves Principle #12: Dedicate Yourself to Servant Leadership Challenge your leadership point of view by examining your heart and asking yourself "am I here to serve or to be served? "Whatever our career may be, true leadership means to receive power from God and to use it under Gods

rule to serve people in Gods way." -Leighton Ford "A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves." -Lao Tzu Principle #12: Dedicate Yourself to Servant Leadership "Servant-leadership is all about making the goals clear and then rolling your sleeves up and doing whatever it takes to help people win. In that situation, they don't work for you, you work

for them." -Ken Blanchard The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.-Jim Rohn Summary 1. 2. 3. 4.

5. 6. Build an Altar, Be The Priest! Focus on Character Development not Image Building! Institute a Culture of Discipline Create an Environment that Fosters Open Communication Learn to CONNECT with every member of your family individually Accept Responsibility Summary 7. 8.

9. 10. 11. 12. Be Open to Change & Encourage Creativity Recognize Problems Before They Become Emergencies Be A Coach Not A King! Watch Your Attitude Provide Positive Reinforcement Dedicate Yourself to Servant Leadership Psalm 11:3 [KJV] - If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? Q&A

What questions do you have about todays teaching? Prayer Lord open my eyes to see the gap to effective leadership in our family and give me the grace make necessary improvements

Recently Viewed Presentations

  • Multiview drawings - Mr. Da Silva Video

    Multiview drawings - Mr. Da Silva Video

    process of projecting 2 or more views of an object onto imaginary planes by drawing lines perpendicular from the object to the planes. views that make up multiview drawings are created through orthographic projection. made with three planes: vertical/frontal. horizontal...
  • asktop.net

    asktop.net

    An ambulance with a Medic/EMT is on the range. EVENT: MAJ Echo, a nurse enroute to OIF, goes to the LTC Charlie, the Range OIC, and reports she feels ill. She fails to tell the OIC she is a previous...
  • The Language of Medicine A Write-in Text Explaining Medical ...

    The Language of Medicine A Write-in Text Explaining Medical ...

    SALIVA (să-LĪ-vă) Enzyme-containing digestive juice secreted by salivary glands-Itcontains the enzyme amylase, [which begins the digestion of starch to sugar], mucin [which makes up mucus i.e. thick and slimy to help lubercate the food and make it possible to swallow]...
  • CDF @ UCSD Frank Würthwein Computing (finished since 8/2006 ...

    CDF @ UCSD Frank Würthwein Computing (finished since 8/2006 ...

    Global CKM Fit Consistency of angles Consistency of angles and sides from global fit Overall good fit (CKMFitter: global p-value 45%) ~2σ tension between sin2β and εK / Vub correction to εK will make it worse (Buras, Guadagnoli, PRD78, 033005...
  • Practice CDL General Knowledge Questions - Laurel County

    Practice CDL General Knowledge Questions - Laurel County

    Practice CDL General Knowledge Questions. John Wyatt. ... Determine if there are any upcoming traffic lights that might require you to stop. ... Rear turn signal may be red, yellow, or amber. Rear turn signals must be clean and operating.
  • Stoichiometry: Calculations with Chemical Formulas and Equations

    Stoichiometry: Calculations with Chemical Formulas and Equations

    The molar mass of an element is the mass number for the element that we find on the periodic table. The formula weight (in amu's) will be the same number as the molar mass (in g/mol).
  • Possessive Nouns - cpb-us-e1.wpmucdn.com

    Possessive Nouns - cpb-us-e1.wpmucdn.com

    goose's. geese. geese's. ... The main incident in the short story "The Scholarship Jacket" happens when Martha is told she has to pay for this years' scholarship jacket even though it is supposed to be earned by having good grades....
  • How Do I Book an Appointment? At your

    How Do I Book an Appointment? At your

    No part of this document may be reproduced, copied, reverse complied, adapted, distributed, commercially exploited, displayed or stored in a database, retrieval system or transmitted in any form without prior permission of Tan Tock Seng Hospital.